From Doubts to Dreams: Redefining Marriage in My Own Way

 Marriage is something many of us look forward to, but for some, it stirs up fear and anxiety. When I started inviting people to my wedding, I expected smiles, congratulations, and warm wishes. Instead, I was met with comments like, “Are you sure you’re ready for this?” or “Marriage is a trap—you’ll lose your freedom.” It felt as if I was announcing the end of my life rather than the beginning of a new chapter. These reactions, I realized, stemmed from people’s fears—fear of responsibility, compromise, and change, often shaped by societal narratives that paint marriage as a burden or their own difficult experiences. At first, these words hurt, but I soon understood that their negativity reflected their insecurities, not mine. Marriage isn’t the same for everyone; it’s a journey shaped by the people involved, their values, and their love. I chose to focus on the positives—on marrying someone who shares my dreams and values, on the growth and partnership we will build together, and on seeing challenges as opportunities to strengthen our bond. Fear shouldn’t define how we see marriage, nor should the negative stories of others. Every marriage is unique, and we have the power to create our own story. As I stand on the threshold of this new phase in my life, I’ve learned to filter out the negativity and focus on my happiness. And yes, I know what you might be thinking: *“Ah, you’re saying this now, but wait until after you’re married—you’ll change your tune.”* Well, let’s see how it goes! For now, wish me the best. Thank you!

Aysha Thanseera. M. K

Assistant Professor, PG Dept. of Psychology, Al Shifa College of Arts and Science, Kizhattoor, Perinthalmanna