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IN HER THIRTIES

 

The thirties mark a turning point for many women, where the realities of life begin to weigh heavier than the dreams of youth. I remember when my youngest child started school, and the easy days of motherhood suddenly disappeared, replaced by busy schedules and so many things to think about. For a woman who is married, working, and has children, the thirties are less about first experiences and more about handling the many demands of work, family, and personal hopes. This decade brings new challenges like helping with kids’ studies, managing work tasks, and running a home, but it also brings moments of deep thinking about life—times when the happiness and struggles of being an adult become very real.

On social media, a lot of women in their thirties discuss the particular difficulties and experiences that come with being married and working with kids. The thrill of the twenties usually doesn't feel like this stage, where dreams come true and responsibilities grow. The joys of an early marriage, the thrill of a first job, or the excitement of becoming a new mother start to change. The joy of childhood often becomes a difficult but necessary task to continue.

It feels like two full-time jobs juggling marriage, work, and kids. Many women get stressed out from balancing the demands of their jobs and caring for their families while working hard both at work and at home. Carrying this combined burden can be difficult and stressful. Additionally, achieving total independence appears to be more challenging. Having a stable job doesn't always translate into feeling free because there are many pulls that make managing everything more difficult, like professional and family responsibilities.

Marriage itself changes in the thirties. The initial excitement fades as life gets busy with work and raising kids. Couples usually have to work harder to keep their love and bond because they spend so much of their time fixing everyday problems instead of savouring romance and dreams. Parenting older children involves more responsibilities because they need more guidance in their social and academic lives. This calls for greater understanding and tolerance. Stress, anxiety, and sometimes guilt about not finding enough time for self-care result from attempting to juggle all of these obligations. In their own need for love and attention, many women feel overworked and ignored. Financial issues also become more significant.

 In the thirties, financial independence means meeting real needs like education, health, and home rather than spending on luxuries. Decisions feel heavy and confusing, and support from loved ones becomes very important. At this time, women need kindness and understanding more than ever to help them find balance and peace.

Being in your thirties as a married, working mom is tough, but it also brings growth and strength. The challenges faced help women become more resilient and sure of what really matters. Life in this decade is about changing priorities, loving deeper, and becoming a stronger version of yourself—shaped by everything you experience and overcome.

Mini. V. K

Head & Assistant Professor 

Department of Commerce and Management Studies 

Al Shifa College of Arts and Science 

Kizhattur