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When a Girl Has to Fight for Her Education

One of the most painful realities I continue to witness is not found in textbooks or research journals, it is found in conversations with young women who fear they may not be allowed to complete their education. Despite Kerala's reputation for high literacy, educational advancement, and social development, there are still many girl students who struggle to exercise what should be a basic right, the opportunity to study.

It is deeply unsettling that, even today, some families continue to believe that marriage is the solution to every challenge a young woman faces. If she is anxious, marriage is suggested. If there are financial concerns, marriage is considered the answer. If she reaches a certain age, her education suddenly becomes secondary to finding a suitable groom. In these situations, marriage is not presented as a personal choice but as an expectation that takes priority over her aspirations.

In my interactions with students, I have seen the emotional burden this creates. Many are bright, capable, and passionate about their future, yet they live with constant uncertainty. They worry that one conversation at home could end their academic journey. Instead of focusing entirely on assignments, internships, or career planning, they are negotiating for permission to complete a degree they have already earned the right to pursue.

Psychologically, this conflict can have lasting consequences. When a young woman is repeatedly told that her dreams are less important than fulfilling traditional expectations, she may begin to question her own worth and abilities. The pressure to choose between family approval and personal ambition can lead to anxiety, guilt, stress, and a diminished sense of self. Education is not merely about obtaining a qualification, it is about developing confidence, independence, critical thinking, and the ability to make informed life decisions.

Marriage itself is not the problem. It can be a meaningful and fulfilling partnership when entered into freely and at the right time. The concern arises when marriage is viewed as the default solution, regardless of a woman's educational goals, career aspirations, or readiness. 

Every girl who sits in a classroom deserves to dream without the fear that those dreams will be interrupted by circumstances beyond her control. Education should never be something a young woman has to fight for. It should be protected, encouraged, and celebrated.

Perhaps the real question we should ask ourselves is not, "When will she get married?" but rather, "What can we do to help her become the person she dreams of being?" When we begin asking that question more often, we move one step closer to a society where education is truly a right, not a privilege that depends on permission.

Arsha P. P.

Assistant Professor of Psychology

Al Shifa College of Arts and Science, Keezhattur, Perinthalmanna.